My Story
My journey has been anything but ordinary. Through every step, I've focused on staying true to my values.
The Grammar of Us: The language of love and connection.
What began in the aftermath of a relationship riddled with outside interferences and emotional manipulation from outside of the relationship has evolved into something I could never have anticipated. The Grammar of Us was born from healing — from the slow, sometimes brutal work of rebuilding a self that had been systematically diminished. I’m proud of how far I’ve come, and even more driven to use that journey to help others. To bring emotional abuse into the light — in all its forms — and offer a honest map for recognizing it, walking away from it, and working through what it leaves behind. Because intimacy is so often where abuse hides, and where healing has to go. At The Grammar of Us, we don’t rush. We take time to understand, to explore, and to create — with purpose at every turn.
Healing is not a straight line, and anyone who tells you otherwise has never been truly broken open. After emotional abuse — the kind that doesn't leave marks you can point to, only a slow erosion of your own instincts, your own certainty, your own voice — the hardest thing to reclaim isn't happiness. It's trust. Trust in your own perception. Trust that what you felt was real, that what was done to you was wrong. That process is unglamorous and non-linear and it asks everything of you on the days you have the least to give. But it is also, I've found, the most honest work you will ever do. Because when you strip away everything that was projected onto you, everything you absorbed in the name of love, what remains is the clearest version of yourself you have ever met. You don't heal in spite of the pain. You heal through it — right through the centre of it — and what comes out the other side is not who you were before. It is someone who knows, with a quiet and unshakeable certainty, exactly what they will and will not carry again.
